{"id":14479,"date":"2016-05-06T12:59:56","date_gmt":"2016-05-06T16:59:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/cosmicconvergence.org\/?p=14479"},"modified":"2016-05-06T13:00:29","modified_gmt":"2016-05-06T17:00:29","slug":"mothers-day-the-true-story","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cosmicconvergence.org\/?p=14479","title":{"rendered":"Mother&#8217;s Day: The True Story"},"content":{"rendered":"<h1 class=\"main-title md-title mt_col-12 mt_col-lg-9\">Mother&#8217;s Day Turns 100: Its Surprisingly Dark History<\/h1>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<p><span data-reactid=\".g.0:$0.0\">By <\/span><span class=\"byline-component__contributors\" data-reactid=\".g.0:$0.1:$0\"><b data-reactid=\".g.0:$0.1:$0.2\"><span data-reactid=\".g.0:$0.1:$0.2.0\">Brian Handwerk<\/span><\/b><span data-reactid=\".g.0:$0.1:$0.3\">, for National Geographic<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"row article__body--container\">\n<div class=\"mt_col-12 mt_col-lg-1 icon-menu addthis_toolbox auto sticky-component--desktop-only sticky-component__active\"><\/div>\n<div id=\"article__body\" class=\"paragraphs mt_col-12 mt_col-lg-7\">\n<div class=\"content parsys\">\n<div class=\"parbase image section\">\n<figure class=\"image media-image media--small left \">\n<div id=\"hwxuxmr6\" class=\"standalone-linked\" data-pagewide-presentation-disabled=\"false\">\n<div class=\"placeholder-image-wrap\">\n<div class=\"picturefill\" data-platform-component=\"PictureFill\" data-platform-alt=\"Photo of Anna Jarvis.\" data-platform-imagecrop=\"null\" data-platform-imagebox-size=\"small\" data-platform-src=\"http:\/\/news.nationalgeographic.com\/content\/dam\/news\/photos\/000\/795\/79524.jpg\" data-platform-itemprop=\"contentUrl\">\n<div class=\"LazyLoad is-visible\" data-reactid=\".4\"><picture data-reactid=\".4.0\"><source srcset=\"http:\/\/news.nationalgeographic.com\/content\/dam\/news\/photos\/000\/795\/79524.adapt.133.1.jpg 133w,http:\/\/news.nationalgeographic.com\/content\/dam\/news\/photos\/000\/795\/79524.adapt.152.1.jpg 152w,http:\/\/news.nationalgeographic.com\/content\/dam\/news\/photos\/000\/795\/79524.adapt.162.1.jpg 162w,http:\/\/news.nationalgeographic.com\/content\/dam\/news\/photos\/000\/795\/79524.adapt.210.1.jpg 210w,http:\/\/news.nationalgeographic.com\/content\/dam\/news\/photos\/000\/795\/79524.adapt.224.1.jpg 224w,http:\/\/news.nationalgeographic.com\/content\/dam\/news\/photos\/000\/795\/79524.adapt.225.1.jpg 225w,http:\/\/news.nationalgeographic.com\/content\/dam\/news\/photos\/000\/795\/79524.adapt.280.1.jpg 280w,http:\/\/news.nationalgeographic.com\/content\/dam\/news\/photos\/000\/795\/79524.adapt.352.1.jpg 352w,http:\/\/news.nationalgeographic.com\/content\/dam\/news\/photos\/000\/795\/79524.adapt.470.1.jpg 470w,http:\/\/news.nationalgeographic.com\/content\/dam\/news\/photos\/000\/795\/79524.adapt.536.1.jpg 536w,http:\/\/news.nationalgeographic.com\/content\/dam\/news\/photos\/000\/795\/79524.adapt.590.1.jpg 590w,http:\/\/news.nationalgeographic.com\/content\/dam\/news\/photos\/000\/795\/79524.adapt.676.1.jpg 676w,http:\/\/news.nationalgeographic.com\/content\/dam\/news\/photos\/000\/795\/79524.adapt.710.1.jpg 710w,http:\/\/news.nationalgeographic.com\/content\/dam\/news\/photos\/000\/795\/79524.adapt.768.1.jpg 768w,http:\/\/news.nationalgeographic.com\/content\/dam\/news\/photos\/000\/795\/79524.adapt.885.1.jpg 885w,http:\/\/news.nationalgeographic.com\/content\/dam\/news\/photos\/000\/795\/79524.adapt.945.1.jpg 945w,http:\/\/news.nationalgeographic.com\/content\/dam\/news\/photos\/000\/795\/79524.adapt.1190.1.jpg 1190w,http:\/\/news.nationalgeographic.com\/content\/dam\/news\/photos\/000\/795\/79524.adapt.1900.1.jpg 1900w\" sizes=\"570px\" data-reactid=\".4.0.0\" \/><img alt=\"Photo of Anna Jarvis.\" data-reactid=\".4.0.1\" \/><\/picture><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><figcaption class=\"media__caption \">\n<div class=\"media__caption--text\">\n<h5>Anna Jarvis was the driving force behind the first Mother&#8217;s Day observances in 1908.<br \/>\nPHOTOGRAPH BY BETTMANN, CORBIS<\/h5>\n<\/div>\n<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p><strong>As Mother&#8217;s Day turns 100 this year, it&#8217;s known mostly as a time for brunches, gifts, cards, and general outpourings of love and appreciation.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p>But the holiday has more somber roots: It was founded for mourning women to remember fallen soldiers and work for peace. And when the holiday went commercial, its greatest champion,\u00a0Anna Jarvis, gave everything to fight it, dying penniless and broken in a sanitarium.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p>It all started in the 1850s, when\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/travel.nationalgeographic.com\/travel\/united-states\/west-virginia-guide\/\">West Virginia<\/a> women&#8217;s organizer Ann Reeves Jarvis\u2014Anna&#8217;s mother\u2014held Mother&#8217;s Day work clubs to improve sanitary conditions and try to lower infant mortality by fighting disease and curbing milk contamination, according to historian Katharine Antolini of\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.wvwc.edu\/\">West Virginia Wesleyan College<\/a>. The groups also tended wounded soldiers from both sides during the U.S.\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/news.nationalgeographic.com\/news\/2011\/04\/110407-civil-war-sesquicentennial\/\">Civil War<\/a> from 1861 to 1865.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p>In the postwar years Jarvis and other women organized Mother&#8217;s Friendship Day picnics and other events as pacifist strategies to unite former foes. Julia Ward Howe, for one\u2014best known as the composer of &#8220;The Battle Hymn of the Republic&#8221;\u2014issued a widely read &#8220;Mother&#8217;s Day Proclamation&#8221; in 1870, calling for women to take an active political role in promoting peace.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p>Around the same time, Jarvis had initiated a Mother&#8217;s Friendship Day for Union and Confederate loyalists across her state. But it was her daughter Anna who was most responsible for what we call Mother&#8217;s Day\u2014and who would spend most of her later life fighting what it had become.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p><strong>&#8220;Mother&#8217;s Day,&#8221; Not &#8220;Mothers&#8217; Day&#8221;<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p>Anna Jarvis never had children of her own, but the 1905 death of her own mother inspired her to organize the first Mother&#8217;s Day observances in 1908.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p>On May 10 of that year, families gathered at events in Jarvis&#8217;s hometown of Grafton, West Virginia\u2014at a church now renamed the\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.mothersdayshrine.com\/history.php\">International Mother&#8217;s Day Shrine<\/a>\u2014as well as in\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/travel.nationalgeographic.com\/travel\/city-guides\/philadelphia-pennsylvania\/\">Philadelphia<\/a>, where Jarvis lived at the time, and in several other cities.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p>Largely through Jarvis&#8217;s efforts, Mother&#8217;s Day came to be observed in a growing number of cities and states until U.S. President Woodrow Wilson officially set aside the second Sunday in May in 1914 for the holiday. (See<a href=\"http:\/\/photography.nationalgeographic.com\/photography\/photos\/animal-mothers-babies\/\">pictures of animal mothers and babies<\/a>.)<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p>&#8220;For Jarvis it was a day where you&#8217;d go home to spend time with your mother and thank her for all that she did,&#8221; West Virginia Wesleyan&#8217;s Antolini, who wrote\u00a0&#8220;Memorializing Motherhood: Anna Jarvis and the Defense of Her Mother&#8217;s Day&#8221; as her Ph.D. dissertation, said in a previous interview.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p>&#8220;It wasn&#8217;t to celebrate all mothers. It was to celebrate the best mother you&#8217;ve ever known\u2014your\u00a0mother\u2014as a son or a daughter.&#8221; That&#8217;s why Jarvis stressed the singular &#8220;Mother&#8217;s Day,&#8221; rather than the plural &#8220;Mothers&#8217; Day,&#8221; Antolini explained.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p>But Jarvis&#8217;s success soon turned to failure, at least in her own eyes.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p><strong>Storming Mother&#8217;s Day<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p>Anna Jarvis&#8217;s idea of an intimate Mother&#8217;s Day quickly became a commercial gold mine centering on the buying and giving of flowers, candies, and greeting cards\u2014a development that deeply disturbed Jarvis. She set about dedicating herself and her sizable inheritance to returning Mother&#8217;s Day to its reverent roots. (See <a href=\"http:\/\/animals.nationalgeographic.com\/animals\/photos\/mothers-love-gallery\/\">National Geographic&#8217;s pictures of motherly love<\/a>.)<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p>Jarvis incorporated herself as the Mother&#8217;s Day International Association and tried to retain some control of the holiday. She organized boycotts, threatened lawsuits, and even attacked First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt for using Mother&#8217;s Day to raise funds for charities.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p>&#8220;In 1923 she crashed a convention of confectioners in Philadelphia,&#8221; Antolini said.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p>A similar protest followed two years later. &#8220;The American War Mothers, which still exists, used Mother&#8217;s Day for fund-raising and sold carnations every year,&#8221; Antolini said. &#8220;Anna resented that, so she crashed their 1925 convention in Philadelphia and was actually arrested for disturbing the peace.&#8221;<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p>Jarvis&#8217;s fervent attempts to reform Mother&#8217;s Day continued until at least the early 1940s. In 1948 she died at 84 in Philadelphia&#8217;s Marshall Square Sanitarium.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p>&#8220;This woman, who died penniless in a sanitarium in a state of dementia, was a woman who could have profited from Mother&#8217;s Day if she wanted to,&#8221; Antolini said.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p>&#8220;But she railed against those who did, and it cost her everything, financially and physically.&#8221;<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p><strong>Mother&#8217;s Day Gifts Today: Brunch, Bouquets, Bling<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p>Today, of course, Mother&#8217;s Day continues to roll on as an engine of consumerism.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.nrf.com\/modules.php?name=News&amp;op=viewlive&amp;sp_id=1813\">According to the National Retail Federation<\/a>, Americans will spend an average of $162.94 on mom this year, down from a survey high of $168.94 last year. Total spending is expected to reach $19.9 billion. The U.S.\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.restaurant.org\/\">National Restaurant Association<\/a> reports that Mother&#8217;s Day is the year&#8217;s most popular holiday for dining out.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p>As for Mother&#8217;s Day being a hallmark holiday, there&#8217;s no denying it, strictly speaking.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/corporate.hallmark.com\/\">Hallmark Cards<\/a> itself, which sold its first Mother&#8217;s Day cards in the early 1920s, reports that Mother&#8217;s Day is the number three holiday for card exchange in the United States, behind Christmas and Valentine&#8217;s Day\u2014another apparent affront to the memory of the mother of Mother&#8217;s Day.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p>About 133 million Mother&#8217;s Day cards are exchanged annually, according to Hallmark. After Christmas, it&#8217;s the second most popular holiday for giving gifts. (See <a href=\"http:\/\/news.nationalgeographic.com\/news\/2010\/06\/100620-fathers-day-entertainment-gifts-quotes\/\">&#8220;Father&#8217;s Day at 100: How It Began, Why Dad Gets Fewer Gifts.&#8221;<\/a>)<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p><strong>Mother&#8217;s Day Gone Global<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p>The holiday Anna Jarvis launched has spread around much of the world, though it&#8217;s celebrated with varying enthusiasm, in various ways, and on various days\u2014though more often than not on the second Sunday in May.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p>In much of the Arab world, Mother&#8217;s Day is on March 21, which happens to loosely coincide with the start of spring. In\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/travel.nationalgeographic.com\/travel\/countries\/panama-guide\/\">Panama<\/a> the day is celebrated on December 8, when the Catholic Church honors perhaps the most famous of mothers, the Virgin Mary. In\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/travel.nationalgeographic.com\/travel\/countries\/thailand-guide\/\">Thailand<\/a> mothers are honored on August 12, the birthday of Queen Sirikit, who has reigned since 1956 and is considered by many to be a mother to all Thais.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/travel.nationalgeographic.com\/travel\/countries\/united-kingdom-guide\/\">Britain<\/a>&#8216;s centuries-old Mothering Sunday, the fourth Sunday of the Christian period of Lent, began as a spring Sunday designated for people to visit their area&#8217;s main cathedral, or mother church, rather than their local parish.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text smartbody parbase section\">\n<p>Mothering Sunday church travel led to family reunions, which in turn led to Britain&#8217;s version of Mother&#8217;s Day.<\/p>\n<p>___<br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/news.nationalgeographic.com\/news\/2014\/05\/140508-mothers-day-nation-gifts-facts-culture-moms\/\">http:\/\/news.nationalgeographic.com\/news\/2014\/05\/140508-mothers-day-nation-gifts-facts-culture-moms\/<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"contributors contributorDetails\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"comments-call-to-action-button\" data-platform-component=\"CommentsCallToActionButton\" data-platform-label=\"Comment on This Story\" data-platform-iconclass=\"icongs-comment\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Mother&#8217;s Day Turns 100: Its Surprisingly Dark History<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"iawp_total_views":2,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-14479","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/cosmicconvergence.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14479","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/cosmicconvergence.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/cosmicconvergence.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cosmicconvergence.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cosmicconvergence.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=14479"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/cosmicconvergence.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14479\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/cosmicconvergence.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=14479"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cosmicconvergence.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=14479"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cosmicconvergence.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=14479"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}